we can all change, it's just the nostalgia...

...of the old days.

Nowadays there are all sorts of techniques out there that can help you change. There are lots of success stories too, about how a shy introvert was turned into a charismatic superstar, etc, etc...

It definitely makes things easier for us, compared with our ancestors who needed superior will power and lots of struggle in order to be what they aspired to be. On the flip side, it can also help us get over emotions like guilt, which we might actually deserve sometimes.

The guilt that can make us better persons, that makes us really go Earn what we've got.

But that's another story, I digressed. What I wanted to tell is the story of an introvert who successfully changed himself into an extrovert, and let's call this guy You. You made more friends and contacts, went to more parties and made more money and 'had more fun' in life...

Only that at some point of the journey, when you feel everything is great and finally you are enjoying the success & popularity that always seem so elusive when you were quiet and contemplative, something or someone triggers a nostalgia that makes you miss the old days when you paint alone in the room richly filled with winter sunlight and tranquility, or those moments when you learnt about human nature by being a quiet observer...

The nostalgia bites.

Then you wonder if it's possible to really change one's personality. Then you wonder if the sacrifices were all worth it. Then you wonder why you thought being an introvert or extrovert really have anything to do with your success and fulfillment in life...

No right, no wrong. It's just the nostalgia. It might never emerge in your life, or it might catch you by surprise. And it bites.

Advice? Before commiting yourself to any major "personality change", make sure you know what you're getting yourself into.