include or exclude, don't be indifferent III - party stranger

Say you're talking with your friend Jake in a party, someone approached & showed interest to join, what'd you do if it doesn't please you to have a third person in the conversation? You may include her/him reluctantly, or you may politely tell her/him that you wish to keep the conversation between you & Jake. Interestingly I notice quite some people who tend to do neither of these.

To many people it isn't easy to say to a well-intentioned stranger "sorry but we would like to keep the conversation between ourselves now, could we catch up with you later?"; while they aren't interested in talking to that person either.

So they choose to do nothing. They'd continue their talk, giving little heed to that person, pretending that person doesn't exist, and hoping that person will go away herself/himself...not knowing it isn't cool and it's rude.

Try put yourself into that person's shoes. What do you feel?

Be honest & polite, don't be a rude coward.

Never ever pretend that person doesn't exist. You know she/he's there.

Bottom line: Include, or Exclude, don't be an insensitive & indifferent jerk playing hero solo.